If you have a teenager who’s in their last year of school, there’s so much to think about that you might not even be ready to consider end-of-year celebrations. After all, it’s ages away, right?

Well, no. The months (or the years, if your kids are younger) will fly by, and there’s no point putting your head in the sand.

For parents of teenagers, risky business is more than just an old Tom Cruise movie

If you have a child in Year 12, you’re probably old enough to remember Tom Cruise sliding across the lounge room floor in his underwear while his parents were out of town – not to mention what came next – while still being young enough to remember your own teenage years. It’s normal to worry about the idea of your child letting their hair down as part of end of school celebrations, but like most worries, it’s better to bring it out into the open and talk about it.

While many school leavers will come home with nothing worse than sunburn and a lighter wallet, it’s fair to say that the biggest risk presented by end-of-school celebrations is the consumption of alcohol. 

More to the point, it’s the resultant lowering of inhibitions and decreased ability to make sensible decisions that creates dangers such as:

• Alcohol poisoning needing hospital treatment
• Drink-driving and drunk-walking
• Climbing, planking, balcony-hopping
• Verbal, physical and sexual assaults (as victim or aggressor)
• Unplanned/unprotected sex

When it comes to teens and risk-taking, we know from extensive research that the adolescent brain is primed to seek out new experiences and quite often those which present some type of risk. But for parents, there can be an uncomfortable contradiction between our expectation that young people need to develop their independence and our desire to keep them protected from harm.

Then there’s the contradiction between society’s attitudes to alcohol and our expectation that teenagers should avoid it. While illegal drugs grab the headlines, legal drugs like alcohol and tobacco present a far greater immediate health problem. 

Although it’s tempting to throw your hands in the air and give up, it’s important to know that parents really can have a big influence on when and how their teenagers start drinking. To begin with, is it a good idea to buy alcohol for your kids if they’re under 19? Apart from the fact that in some situations it's illegal, what message are you sending by your actions as well as your words?                              

Research confirms what Teen Triple P has been explaining to parents for many years: that with alcohol consumption as with so many other issues, it really helps to talk about what the rules and limits are, and to be consistent in applying them. This will work most successfully when it’s not a case of “laying down the law”, but rather exchanging information and communicating within the context of a positive, loving relationship. And of course parents who model responsible drinking behaviour for their teenager are more likely to have success in this area than those of the “do as I say, not as I do” variety.

Another aspect of Teen Triple P that parents really find helpful is learning how to teach risk-evaluation skills to teenagers. It’s about helping them to come up with possible options and action plans. Teaching teenagers to manage risks for themselves is more effective in the long term than going to extreme lengths to protect them (such as hiring private detectives to monitor their activities).

The time to start having these conversations is now, not at the end of the school year. 

A recent survey found that teenagers spend many hours planning their purchase and consumption of alcohol prior to school-leavers’ festivals, but virtually no time researching potential risks or basic health information. By finding some time in the rush of graduation activities to let them know you love and care for them, asking them about their plans, and providing them with some facts about alcohol’s health impacts, you may be able to help more than you know. So whatever age your kids are, think about how you can create opportunities to start the conversational ball rolling with your son or daughter, if you haven’t already, about alcohol and its effects on the brain and body.